Friday, April 11, 2008
Regrets
My buddy Valarie said I should blog about this........so here goes! I have one major regret in my life, well actually make that two. One is sort of big, but the other is trivial, so that must mean that my life is pretty good. My trivial regret is getting a tattoo on my lower back when I was 22 years old. At the time, I thought it was very cool and oh so cute. Now that I am a mommy and have four girls, I am mortified for them to see it and think that tattoo's are cool and fun. It never really dawned on me that having a tattoo could be a negative thing until we were at the beach two years ago with my girls softball team. While I was in the pool, sporting my ever so cool tattoo, several of the little 9-12 year old girls told me how "awesome" my tattoo was and started to talk about how they wanted to get one. Some of them even talked their mom's into getting them a henna tattoo......on their lower back(my head is hanging in shame). I felt like the worst person in the world and still do when people, especially kids, see it and comment on how much they like it. Honestly if I could change one thing that I have done in the past, it would not even be the big mistake I made, it would be that I ever got a tattoo. And to be honest, I have been obsessing about it lately......maybe I need to up my crazy meds!!!!! Just kidding! I have been thinking about having it removed because I just love to wear mid-drift shirts in the summer time! Just kidding again!!
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Oh come on you know you like those short shirts and short shorts. ;}
We love you even with your tattoo!
Get it removed if you want to and if it will make you feel better. My sister had one removed with great success.
The other option is to keep it (saving yourself a lot pain and a tremendous amount of money) and use it as a talking point with your girls and other young people who see it. It's an opportunity for you to talk about how you DO understand what it's like to be young and feeling like you're able to make wise decisions. You know, a "before and after," or "then and now" conversation. A good opening for conversations about how some decisions have long-term consequences.
I think part of being a mother is looking at all of the choices that we have made, and deciding just what lie we are going to tell our kids about our teenage years. LOL
I second guess myself all the time and Regrets? I've got plenty!
Be blessed.
Jen
What a great opportunity to teach the young girls. When they notice and comment you can tell them that you made a choice when you were young without thinking of the long term consequenses. You can then let them know that you regret that decision and feel it was foolish and don't feel like it was a "cool" decision anymore. Then you can tell them that they need to really think about the choices they make and how some things are permanant after you do them and that they will be with you for the rest of your life. I don't think you should be ashamed. It is a visible sign of how you have changed and grown and can now be used in a good positive way to teach others.
I don't mean to copy Dawn. I wrote this before reading her post. I am leaving it in case it explains anything in a different way than what she was saying.
I love that you've posted about this~ more people need to admit that their tattoo was not their brightest moment.
Fannie Flagg told us once..."Life is a real long time" she was talking about being nice to others~ but I think it applies to tattoos as well.
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